Are you an introvert? If you are, don’t be too hard on yourself because
you’ve got a lot going for you. To start with I’d like to make it clear
that introversion is not the same as shyness.
Because introverts get their energy from within themselves rather than from others (as extroverts do) they tend to lag in the social skills. This can make them awkward and uncomfortable in social situations. So introverts can suffer from shyness but there are many introverts who do not.
Know that you are not alone in the world. Thirty percent of the world’s population are introverts.
Some examples of successful introverts: Johnny Carson, Neil Armstrong, Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, Jerry Seinfeld, Tiger Woods, James Dean, Clint Eastwood, and Steven Spielberg.
When it comes to getting women, being an introvert means that you will go after certain types of women that are compatible with your personality type. It would also be advisable to meet women in places more suitable to your temperament. So this probably rules out the noisy bars and night clubs of your extroverted brethren.
It also helps if you fit into certain introvert stereotypes that society admires. One example of this would be someone who’s a deep thinker that can offer profound and intriguing insights on a variety of subjects. Given that many introverts live a life of the mind, you probably wouldn’t have to work very hard to cultivate this type of persona.
If you’re successful at this and if you choose a compatible female, she will see you as this mysterious deep well that never fails to surprise her with intriguing insights.
If this is not ‘you’ then perhaps you’re exceptionally creative and you can build your persona around this particular strength. I’m not saying that you have to be someone you aren’t. I’m saying that many women are intrigued by men who are different in a positive way. Men who are deep, mysterious. The confident introvert naturally has this quality in spades. Extroverts get to play the ‘bad boy’ to attract women. Introverts get to play the ‘mystery man’, the cool James Bond who’s not going to be a boring push over.
Because of their great powers of focus, many introverts occupy professions such as doctor, writer, scientist, professor, etc. These are high status positions and males of high status are always considered desirable by the opposite sex.
If you’re like a lot of introverts, it wouldn’t hurt to work on your social skills. This will allow you to be relaxed enough so that you can center your focus on that woman you’re talking to right now. You don’t want your focus diverted by self consciousness. Being relaxed is a sign of confidence which most women regard as desirable in a man.
There are a number of ways to improve the social skills. You can make an effort to socially interact with as many people as you can throughout the day. Or if you find this too exhausting (as many introverts would), join groups and communities that share your interests and become active and involved. Being able to socialize is a skill that gets easier and easier with practice. The brain is remarkable in it’s ability to pick things up and adapt.
Because introverts get their energy from within themselves rather than from others (as extroverts do) they tend to lag in the social skills. This can make them awkward and uncomfortable in social situations. So introverts can suffer from shyness but there are many introverts who do not.
Know that you are not alone in the world. Thirty percent of the world’s population are introverts.
Some examples of successful introverts: Johnny Carson, Neil Armstrong, Albert Einstein, Thomas Edison, Jerry Seinfeld, Tiger Woods, James Dean, Clint Eastwood, and Steven Spielberg.
When it comes to getting women, being an introvert means that you will go after certain types of women that are compatible with your personality type. It would also be advisable to meet women in places more suitable to your temperament. So this probably rules out the noisy bars and night clubs of your extroverted brethren.
It also helps if you fit into certain introvert stereotypes that society admires. One example of this would be someone who’s a deep thinker that can offer profound and intriguing insights on a variety of subjects. Given that many introverts live a life of the mind, you probably wouldn’t have to work very hard to cultivate this type of persona.
If you’re successful at this and if you choose a compatible female, she will see you as this mysterious deep well that never fails to surprise her with intriguing insights.
If this is not ‘you’ then perhaps you’re exceptionally creative and you can build your persona around this particular strength. I’m not saying that you have to be someone you aren’t. I’m saying that many women are intrigued by men who are different in a positive way. Men who are deep, mysterious. The confident introvert naturally has this quality in spades. Extroverts get to play the ‘bad boy’ to attract women. Introverts get to play the ‘mystery man’, the cool James Bond who’s not going to be a boring push over.
Because of their great powers of focus, many introverts occupy professions such as doctor, writer, scientist, professor, etc. These are high status positions and males of high status are always considered desirable by the opposite sex.
If you’re like a lot of introverts, it wouldn’t hurt to work on your social skills. This will allow you to be relaxed enough so that you can center your focus on that woman you’re talking to right now. You don’t want your focus diverted by self consciousness. Being relaxed is a sign of confidence which most women regard as desirable in a man.
There are a number of ways to improve the social skills. You can make an effort to socially interact with as many people as you can throughout the day. Or if you find this too exhausting (as many introverts would), join groups and communities that share your interests and become active and involved. Being able to socialize is a skill that gets easier and easier with practice. The brain is remarkable in it’s ability to pick things up and adapt.
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